A for Adjustment: an A to Z Challenge

 "Every girl in our family bears these problem, why can't you do the same and adjust accordingly?" Those words keep ringing in her mind, though in vain. It takes her back to what exactly she was trying to adjust to?

"You're married now, you should sleep with your husband whenever he demands to." Said doting mother of her so-called husband. 

"If you won't service me when I need you, you'll know what a Man can do to a woman." Loving words of her so-called husband. 

"Don't worry about all this, I'll take care of everyone, you just do what I ask for and in return you'll  always be happy." Words of her loving father-in-law who spread his hand on her backless blouse clad body. 

"Who do you think you are? Didn't you know that you became our property when you got married to my brother?" Reminder from her sweet little sister-in-law. 

There was nothing wrong in her life, I mean there was no domestic violence, no dowry demands from her in-laws because come on, they already have a house full of 'Love' her father showered in her marriage. 

So what was her problem? Her parents always wondered when she refused to go back to her in-laws. 

She was taught that she is not an object, her father treated her like a princess and made her a woman she is today; strong, no-bullshit attitude, who cried when she is wrong but fought like a warrior when she is blamed unnecessarily! So when her father stood helpless in front of her, she felt like a loser because she cannot see tears in her Father's eyes but she knew she couldn't live there one more second and in the long run, what she has to do will hurt her Father more; she tried to kill herself.

There were things she cannot tell anyone about; she was ashamed, scared, bewildered of what all was happening. She didn't know what to do and how to approach this situation and then she found out the dates written in a diary; there were notes suggesting when she had her periods and when she had intercourse along with number of times on a particular day, when she visited her doctor and what all medicine she took.

Those parting words still makes her shiver, "Give me a child and no one will bother you again..." but she still don't have an answer to satiate her parents, this society and all those relatives who look at her like why can't you do that? Why can't you just ADJUST?



1st April, 2016
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Black Rainbow by J.J. McAvoy
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

#RuthlessPeople was a hurricane for me, with those ruthless and bold characters, J.J.McAvoy is a wonderful author and a favourite of mine as well.

So, a few days back when I came to know about this #BlackRainbow, you cannot expect me to resist myself right?

#BlackRainbow was totally different from her criminal genre which J.J.McAvoy is soo good at, but this was a masterpiece in itself with #LeviBlack and #TheaCunning. It's a story about Truth, Love, Trust and Power, Power can make you stand out; Power can make you go dizzy with high that is so good and make people envious of you.

It's all about trust that you show on your loved ones, but trust; that comes only when that person has earned it and you have shown them that they are worth it. How Thea and Levi fights in a court is an art in itself. How they are a power couple can make you feel envious of their chemistry and intelligence. Their forbidden love, secrets that can destroy their surrounding, steam rising from their intimacy and how conversation between you and your loved one matters not only the intimacy will create hell in your love life after reading this because am sure you would crave all these that Levi and Thea has.

5 steamy and powerful stars for these two bombs!!!

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Let Me Tell You About S.O.A.R (Success Over Adversity Reigns)- Written By Abir Mukherjee

 “Best friends are people who make your problems their problems, just so you don’t have to go through them alone.”

This is a story about how certain situations in your life and your reaction towards it will either make or break you.

This book is an example of friendship, belief, determination and an inkling of your dream. When someone else’s dream becomes your, when you trust their belief upon rules and regulations, you create a masterpiece.

Abir Mukherjee portrayed this story about 3 friends; who endorsed a dream, sweat blood, created an obstacle which is what ‘Adversity’ refers to; an adversity where they sacrificed relationships but managed to overcome this ‘Reign’ just because of their friendship and dedication towards each other.

This is a story of Uday, Adhyayan, and Rajasekaran! Who takes you to a rollercoaster ride of their life. Let me introduce you to them from my POV:

Uday

A Cocky, Broody, Driven, Irritating, Single-Minded and a bit frustrating at times, who is a leader in this story of fighting against all odds. He lives and breathes his dream of breaking the cycle of 9 to 5 job by entering into the world of entrepreneur with a business idea to help society while reaping monetary gains as well.

Adhyayan

Adi: as they call him, is the most clueless person I have ever seen! He doesn’t have a negative bone in his body but when it comes to understanding her wife; Shristi, he is useless! Adi is a wonderful friend, who is always torn between his work, friends, and wife because he wants to bring justice to everything and everyone in his life.  

Rajasekaran

Raja is my favourite character from this book! He is intelligent, funny, dedicated and straight forward in his emotions towards the love of his life: Sneha! Even though he belongs to a narrow-minded family, he loves freely: without any inhibitions towards Sneha’s lifestyle which is 360 degree opposite of Raja. I love him!!!

What I loved!

“Okay, then call me when you will be upset again. I know everyone will be with you in happy and good moments.”

Raja won my heart with these words and I loved funny conversations between Raja and Sneha! So, Abir Mukherjee did a wonderful job of mixing humour, emotions, family drama, passion for work, intelligence, and making this story an interesting read for us!

I finished this book in a one go, so it was that interesting for me because of the unique title; which I might add could not be better for the story.

My favourite part of the book was when both friends of Uday comes running back to him in need, even though he was cocky, he needed them and his friends knew him enough. Being always there for you may not be possible for many, but those who are always there when in need are gems; gems to be preserved.

There are many good points in this book to admire like:

Editor Sharanya Bhattacharya has done a wonderful job, while +Abir Mukherji has given birth to this unique story, plot and characterization, it won’t be a good read if it was full of edit fiascos which makes it a pleasant and easy read.

This story has Humour, Maturity, Interesting characters, and not a Love Story which still managed to grasp reader’s attention just because it helps you relate to their characters; makes you dream, rise and fall with them.

A Little Hitch

Book is in a Multiple POV’s which has a room for improvement due to the confusion it creates while jumping from one person to another frequently within a chapter. At times, I needed to re-read the words just to confirm whose thoughts are these.

My Personal Experience

“Our success and career are meaningless without the people who care about us.”

At the end of the day, you need a companion; you need your loved ones happy around you and not only in the monetary form but by being happy yourself.

This book is not based on any philosophy or any spiritual meaning waiting to be unearthed by readers, it is a simple read based on situations which may or may not be experienced by you till now, but can help you if so…

So, give it a read on any dull day of your life and you are guaranteed to feel motivated for your dreams, goals, future and if not all these then atleast a good laugh!

About the Author

Successfully reaching to his readers with his second book, S.O.A.R (Success Over Adversity Reigns) +Abir Mukherji is an IT professional currently based in U.S.A. who is an artist through and through as sketching and writing is what he loves to do.

As I said earlier, this author is interested in entertaining his readers rather than preaching about how and what to do in your life. You read, you laugh, you cry with these characters but there’s no hidden agenda behind his words except a hell of a ride in their journey of life.

His style of writing is matured and a little informal to make you feel comfortable, which is perfectly suitable for the audience his book is seeking towards.

His debut novel: ‘As Life Has No Undo’ is yet to be read by me but S.O.A.R has managed to make me curious enough to give it a go for once!

Thanks for this review copy of S.O.A.R +Abir Mukherji, am looking forward to read your future works!

Title: S.O.A.R (Success Over Adversity Reigns)

Author: Abir Mukherjee

Genre: Contemporary Fiction

Publisher: Frog Books  (Imprint of +Leadstart Publishing Pvt Ltd)

Place: Mumbai

ISBN: 978-93-52013-24-1

Edition: 2015

Pages: 161 Pgs.

Price: Rs. 125

Chapters: 18 with an apt title

Rating: 4.5/5 Stars

-         -  @radhna Tiwari 

It Doesn’t Hurt To Be Nice by Ameesha Sethi

I must say Ameesha Sethi did a good job with this philosophical work even though her background is one of management, but as you must know, knowledge comes from experiences and not just education and this is one hell of an example.

It Doesn’t Hurt To BE Nice is a philosophical read, leaving me disturbed for few hours. I correlate with this book at a personal level due to the turbulences my life served me till now and I know will do in the coming future as well.

Something Different:

I liked the practical approach Kiara has embedded in her life even though she believes in karma, as people say one who is philosophical or spiritual in nature tends to get indifferent towards people and situations in their life, but here Kiara has fought her way from bottom to top with love for her parents and friends. It shows that in this race of life, it is easier to blame others for your insecurities, but when you find the real reason of your being, you’ll see how wrong you were.

Dilemma of mine:

It is a good read for people who are trying to be themselves in this slaving and chaotic era but do you think by reading this book or we can say any other book for that matter can help them? Because even though books are what made me a better human being at the time when I was struggling with emotions and lots of changes in my personal life, I don’t feel like reading philosophical books at that time.

I know the importance of this book as I can relive my life through some of the instances in this book, but I find it difficult that it can help at the crucial stage.

To understand spirituality, one needs to be a best friend with themselves and then and then only there can be any scope of going a level ahead. One must perceive the meaning of “Love” and “Wisdom”, you need to study your happiness, feelings and what karma is.

Author’s work according to me:

With the help of her personal situations, author Ameesha Sethi has managed to come up with something that an educated layperson can follow. The arguments and justification about every philosophical point she has included which makes you feel comfortable in a way that yes, I am not the only fool who thinks like this (No pun intended).

What could have been an advantage:

I little bit too fast paced to cope up with as author takes you on a journey of life i.e. from past to present and then back. It could have been a little better. It is full of verses from Bhagwad Gita which I enjoyed immensely because I believe in philosophy and spirituality, but when I try to explain anything to my friends or even my siblings, they are not at all interested in listening to me, so I would recommend this book to people who are into philosophy, spirituality, and wisdom because it is really good for those who knows the value of it.

So, for me this book was a 3.5/5 because it makes me happy that I am not an alien in this world, but just a lill different one with a jumbled mess of thoughts.

Details about books:

Title: It Doesn't Hurt To Be Nice

Author: Ameesha Sethi

Publication: Shrishti Publishers & Distributors

Publication Date: 2015

Edition: First

Pages: 130

Contents: Distributed in 10 parts with lessons to be derived.

- Aradhna Tiwari

The unbearable and harsh truth of life...

You love your parents, you always respect them and move towards your goal around only in a way to keep the most imp people, yr parents at the center of your life.

But then suddenly one night, you get a dreaded call n everything crashes in that single millisecond!!! and you hate everything around now... Nuthing n i mean nuthing can change this... You gonna crash and never b yourself once again... No beliefs, no values, no fucking destiny will work coping with this pain!

You just have to let it seep into your soul and get yourself drenched into it... You'll learn living with it, but mind you: in no less painfull seconds...

So noone and no amount of knowledge is ever gonna make you ready for these phases of your life my dear ones...

_@radhna

Stay Detached!

Never get attached to your plannings. They will change, as everything changes. Change is what the only constant in life, the more you fight against the wind, the more it'll leave you behind.

Take a deep breath, and try to live in the moment. Enjoy your life, enjoy what you have got today and to hell with your future plannings!

Nature will take its place and you have to adjust accordingly. The more you are able to mould with the changes, (just to get it over with, don't get attached to this change as well!) and you'll be able to see things more clearly.

I know it's hard, no it's painful and pain demands to be felt, spread inside you and let you live with it. It makes the matter more clear on the other side. You have to experience the pain and get used to it. I promise it gets better!

To all out there who is facing problems in their life, no matter huge, critical, small or minor it'll pass away and trust me when I say, the after-effects of these change will give new meanings to your life.

Why the change?
When I can exchange?
You live once,
You die once.
Take the chances,
Break into dances.
Your smile gets bigger,
Your world turns brighter.
Trust your instincts,
And you'll love your innings.
You get only one life to be YOU,
Don't let these changes to destroy you.

-@radhna

Games of my Life!

Candy Crush, Pirate Kings, Blocks I don't even know the names of all the games people play now a days. I use to get irritated when people play those stupid games and I was at the receiving end of those game requests like many out there in a friend list.

It was a waste of time. A no-brainer (I knoe it requires strategies and mind fuck) but still, why bother with those and not invest your time in some fruitful work? 

I got the answer today, being sick and lying in bed whole day, your empty mind seeks to those dreadful past and innumerable possibilities of your future. They are nothing but a devil lurking in the shadows, waiting patiently for a chance; a chance to escape into your mind and suck the life out of your present. Leaving you motionless and incapable of holding yourself together. You feel better when you succumb to those needs of crying your heart out or delivering those abuses you wanted to hurl on someone since long ago.

I found these silly games coming to my rescue when my books even lost all their charm during those blackouts. These silly games which doesn't require your mind or soul to engage, just go on with the chores of the process and waste away those thoughts dragging you to the darkness.

I never thought I'll ever spend an ounce of my time on these games, but today I am thankful to those for existing.

-@radhna

Insecurities

A spirit so wild, always busy, contemplating her thoughts.

Trying to tame,
Even though in vain.

Leave it girl! There's no sense!
The fierce need, logic & reasoning.
That's what are your friends,
Protecting, Tickling, Churning your thoughts.

People come and go...
Yeah they went about their life...
Noone should be blamed,
As I am the force behind.

My insecurities, screaming so loud.
I try to repress, I try to accept.
You know how they reply?
They force back with all their might!!!

And once again, I am left behind...
For better or worse,
I really don't know...
Coz am still trying and trying and trying...
I know...

-@radhna